[Oops, did she just do that SHSL Detective thing again.
APPARENTLY SO.]
Not really. Craving intimacy is a natural human response. If today is his birthday, you're thinking, "if we were together, and things hadn't gone wrong, we'd be happily spending the day with each other", aren't you? Moreover, you're torturing yourself by envisioning fantasies of what might have been, despite the underlying knowledge of what was.
[She sinks down a little lower, letting her legs stretch out a bit more so that her body is in wider contact with the warmth of the Ponyta, and crosses her legs at the ankles so her legs will stay a little warmer while she's soaking in the heat elsewhere.]
That could also be a way of punishing yourself for some implicit perceived inability to make the relationship work. Rationally, you're aware that this is upsetting and counterproductive, but you assume you deserve that as punishment for whatever ended the relationship, or for being the one who ultimately ended it.
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Date: 2013-12-09 05:39 am (UTC)APPARENTLY SO.]
Not really. Craving intimacy is a natural human response. If today is his birthday, you're thinking, "if we were together, and things hadn't gone wrong, we'd be happily spending the day with each other", aren't you? Moreover, you're torturing yourself by envisioning fantasies of what might have been, despite the underlying knowledge of what was.
[She sinks down a little lower, letting her legs stretch out a bit more so that her body is in wider contact with the warmth of the Ponyta, and crosses her legs at the ankles so her legs will stay a little warmer while she's soaking in the heat elsewhere.]
That could also be a way of punishing yourself for some implicit perceived inability to make the relationship work. Rationally, you're aware that this is upsetting and counterproductive, but you assume you deserve that as punishment for whatever ended the relationship, or for being the one who ultimately ended it.